Times are a changing.
I am finding of all the places that I haunt online, are changing for the worst. I find people not really into the lifestyle, but into themselves and their persona online claiming to be much more. And people think this is the norm. I find they're ready to proclaim their dominance and experience online, but don't seek or have the "Inlife" actual experience. Now don't get Me wrong, I have an "online" submissive of "5 years" now, and I have an "actual time" submissive of 19! years as well. I deal with both as an actual relationship. But what I am finding is the chest thumping attitude, from both sides of the slash, that honestly I find funny. What makes you any better than the next person?...not a damn thing, just like I am no better than any other dom, EXCEPT! to those that it matters. But yet I find the community online, and in real life here where I am, strange and cliquish, even after all these years. I see people taking advice from people who are outspoken on these sites, but lacking the so-called experience. I mean at what point do you consider experience...because they deal with an online relationship...or that they frequent the local clubs and are active players. Does it really take some pervert claiming to be all knowing giving a class on any certain subject matter involved in the lifestyle, to be the common concept of how things are? No! Each and every relationship has its own quirks, guidelines, roles, etc... I would like to hear other peoples insight on this subject. Am I the only one laughing at the everyday goings on?
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Re: Times are a changing.
I guess it is the same as everything else in the world. Here may be not be vanilla, but the same charaters inhabit this lifestyle, so some good, some bad, some just downright funny. But one thing does remain, unless we explore in whatever we chose to do in this life we are stagnant and unchanging. So i think the good, the bad and definately the funny all have something to teach us whether we take it in or discard it.
Re: Times are a changing.
I'm more inclined to say that it isn't so much a lack of interest in the lifestyle as much as it is a lack of respect for the lifestyle itself. One can always ask themselves I guess..is this a way of life worthy of having or requiring respect for? To me..for me..the answer is yes but that is a personal view. It use to seem that many more that I encountered also held this view and it made things more simple and understood..less cluttered if you will and better served to help those seeking to find their place.
For some I guess it is a means or addition to their life rather than a change of their existing life, and maybe within those differences lays the seperation or division.
Ultimately though in the end I have to agree..finding what one seeks for their happiness is the bottom line.
starshine
Re: Times are a changing.
First off the whole chest thumping thing is just a yawn. Who cares who thumps?
Those guys and gals are just trying to get some attention, just like the rest of us, but they use that tactic instead of some other. We all think, so we all plan. It's just part of the human condition.
I say live and let live.
As far as real relationships go, I totally agree. Every one is different. They all have their quirks, forte's and foibles. Each it's own unique flavor, so to speak. That is what makes life so interesting. Some seek to force a relationship into something it's not, and that is interesting in it's way, some take it as it is and work with it to forge a strong bond. Either way it works for those in it or it fails completely and we move on.
Some lurk in the shadows, others crow and thump their chests. Some just talk and see who shakes out. It takes all kinds to make a world.
We all seek the one who will make our lives better.
Good luck, seekers.
-=Storm=-