Today's topic telling your vanilla family you are kinky.
Soooo tired. Working the morning shift today instead of my evening/night shift gonna be a long day. Anyways into discussion.
Coming out about being "kinky". I had A situation last night were I was almost caught as it were. My mom used my computer... a lot of the time I leave windows like here and collar me open (I know bad habit). Anyways I got to thinking it would be so much easier if they knew but my family is rather traditional and I don't think they would understand or take it well. So I figured let's hear people's stories and suggestions as to whether it is important to tell vanilla family about your bdsm interests and if so the best approach. Hope all are well
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Re: Today's topic telling your vanilla family you are kinky.
My mom knows. Hell, she was Domme herself before me. When i went out on my own i met a sissy. I sent him to mom. LOL
Re: Today's topic telling your vanilla family you are kinky.
Telling my family about being into this lifestyle was not on my list of things to do.
My family is very small and very tight knit (mom, sis, bro-in-law), so when it got to a point of them asking what I was up to and "not much" was getting old and not believable, I had to find a way let them know I wasn't depressed or shooting drugs into my veins.
I started with my sister, figured she would get it more. "I'm into bondage. I've been putting a lot of time into an online community. It's something I've been thinking about for a long time. I've just recently started interacting with people, figuring out what I like about this and how it makes me happy." - silence. She asked lots of questions, even the website name and what my handle was. I told her mom would ask her questions and what she thought.
My sister said it sounded like something that made me very, very happy. As long as I was safe, she was behind it. (She also liked my stories I've written - a bit awkward too.)
Mom has taken it harder. She asked what she did when I was little to make me this way. Her way of dealing with things is to make jokes. Her favorite is to say, "I would of called but I thought you'd be tied up". Yes, very funny. I also told her she'd have lots of questions and to write them down. I would answer any and all of them. A few days later she had about 2 hours worth of questions. Some silly, some not.
The point being, it would be great if we could keep our lives very, very separate. It's not always feasible. Most, really, do not want to know and are not open to understanding. Very few people I've talked with here have told family so I feel lucky to have the support and also the acceptance that while they do not understand, they know I'm happier exploring this side of not being vanilla. Everyone and every situation is so different.
Re: Today's topic telling your vanilla family you are kinky.
I have never felt any oblication or reason to tell anyone about how I live my life!
What I do If within The BDSM lifestyle or in vinilla setting is no ones concern but my own!
Re: Today's topic telling your vanilla family you are kinky.
i and my Master have told a select group of friends. However, our families are traditional as well so we keep things to ourselves. We do reside in an apartment about Master's parents and we have hard wood floors...So they have asked sometimes "Did I hear chains?" Master just blames it on our german shepard
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