In my experience what you make a priority, well, IS a priority.  You and your partner find ways to make it work.  You foster a positive, success-ful attitude.   From these come ideas and experimentation that will result in success, for you, at your ability (and opportunity) to play.

For example, your husband/Dom (presuming this is your partner, correct me if I'm wrong) could discuss with you privately with regards to new behavior he expects, and language/wording that is reflective of his dominance, and your consensual submission.  Variety can be as extensive as you wish it to be.  He might ask a 'question', such as: "Hun, would you make my special/favorite dinner on Sat night this week?"----which your reply could be "Absolutely.  You can count on it being done!".    In this over-simplified example, the typical drudgery of dinner can be dramatically transformed into a beautiful and focused moment-in-time of submission and obedince for you... simply because he asked.  Such 'events' are limited to what you and your husband/partner agree to.