There are risks to take on both sides!! nothing is sure!!Talk first,for consider time,and Plan, then if money is advanced!!Hope for the best! Try and reduce the risk of anything not going as planned!! But if it does, walk away, and write it off as a loss and experience! Do not dwell on a negative!!!

thats exactly what I have been saying, if you have been talking together and you both feel its time
to meet, then meet her half way, or have her come to you, or go to her.
by doing this, it weeds out the serious ones from the fakes. if she is only after money, you will know right away.
dont get me wrong, I may find the need to remnurse her for some travel costs after she is with me, bit not until she is with me do I make myself fincinaly responsible for her.

Are you saying have them come to me on there dime, and I take it from there?

I have had several submissive women ask me for travel expnces and living expenses. my
problem is I wont pay anyone to meet me. the reality is how do you know
once the money is sent,there going to actualy show up at all?
thats the risk you take, my advice to you because I know first hand,
take your time and meet in person before any financial care is talked about. trust me this will save you a lot of trouble in the end. if she is not willing to get to know you and build trust together, she might mot
be for you. just trying to help
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master John Harte

That's why I would want to get to know said slave.

Tha point is that it is a great fantasy, "to be a mere fuck toy in pain then let me know." sounds great and lets my cunt get wet.
But things are different in reality. Leaving everything behind is not an option for me and I guess for most people. What if I get ill? What if I get old? You want the slaves to never again see their beloved ones?
I would consider this for a while or so, but never for the rest of my life.
And furthermore: Nobody knows nything about you. You could be a pervert (well lwe are all perverts I guess...), who kills his victims.

I would never ask to leave loved ones behind. In fact lack of communication to such is a big problem. I am looking for one that would be willing to build up to. But since some medical changes in my life I want to get some desires met before the time comes. but like I said I don't like to put my life out on display. And for those asking it is not an std nor can get through sex. I do know that somewhere out there there is someone that wants to dive in head first into the lifestyle and I was hoping on a whim and a prayer she may be here. Now I hope it evolves into more and I'm sure it would, but this is one goal I want to meet before the time comes. But doesn't need to be new can be experienced as well.

From the slave perspective.....

You are asking for someone to drop their entire life for you, to give you everything... I personally would give this to very few, and it would be a slow process.... And in reality, I have friends and family who I will not disappear from. No amount of money would change that. I'm an accomplished woman... I have a career... I would not quickly give that up for a stranger...

From my view, someone who is willing to leave everything, with no safety net, for someone they barely know, probably doesn't have much in their current life... or they might be running... Neither would be the best emotional situation....

A healthy relationship takes time.

Well I really don't have a lot of time to build into that kind of relationship. Personal reasons. But I do understand what you mean.

Now that's great information.

Something to keep in mind is, we were all new at one point, and we've all made mistakes along the way. But despite the want you're still entering into a relationship and those pesky relationship dynamics still apply.

So as badly as you want someone to fall over your knee, it's probably not a realistic expectation. You will, however, get out what you put in...it just takes time.