Somebody from another group I belong too had posted a list of the 40 red flags that a sub/slave should look for when meeting a potential Dominant. I thought for the most part, the list was very good and decided to post it here. As I have known a few sub/slaves that were eager to get into a relationship.So here is the list for you to look at. Just some food for thought.

1) Tries to separate you from your friends, family or BDSM community.
2) Avoids talking about personal details. Gets mad when you ask or quickly ends the conversation or answers questions with questions.

Hi Folks
Just some info I came across about breast health and play. It is long, but very informative. I hope you find it educational too

October is Breast Cancer Awareness
BREAST HEALTH AND BONDAGE
Fat Necrosis:
Fat Necrosis is the destruction of fat cells in the breast due to trauma (injury) or hypoxemia (deprivation of oxygen). Special care must be taken with fatty breast tissue because the blood supply to fat is always poor. Lack of oxygen or an inadequate blood supply causes the cells to die and release particles of fat. The remaining tissue may become hard or calcified.

Something I have often wondered what it means to different people. I know myself I never even heard the term until about 9 years ago. I got involved in the lifestyle in 1978. Yes folks that's 33 years ago. I wont go into the details but I had been going through a rough time. I met a woman and through a network she was attached to, I was introduced to the wonderful world of BDSM. I started what was called an apprenticeship. I learned to serve my Mistress and those she instructed me to serve. It gave me focus and helped me sort my life out. I did this and learned for 2 years.

Being from Canada ( the land of political correctness). Where we no longer have Christmas trees, but instead we have holiday trees. (honestly no bullsh**)And the needs of the individual most certainly outweigh the needs of the many. A friend sent this too me and I thought it was most certainly appropriate for our festive season. So here is my politically correct seasonal greeting to you all

So I met with my lawyer yesterday, and on advice I wish to say the following :

Another thought on finding a relationship. (Some may disagree)

Like many I am trying to find my one. But being lonely does not equate to being desperate in my books. Now like many I have gone through a rough patch with loosing work in this economic enviroment we have ongoing in our world. I had a great job and lost it and took whatever work I could to survive. I felt like the guy in the song "man of constant sorrows", but instead of 6 years it really was only 4.5 years. Now I finally have a job that is getting me on the upswing side of things.

One thing I have talked about and I am curious about is this term "slave". Many subs use this word to describe themselves. I use the term sub because to me they really aren't slaves. I will explain my mindset. Please read all of it before passing judgement please.

(my mindset)
To me a slave is someone that is property. Now if that person is my slave, then I should be able to do what I want with it. And to be a true slave that person should do whatever it is commanded. Obedience should be given and punishment should be handed out for non compliance by the slave.