I wonder if they could chain you to the wall so you can watch without getting in the way, and still feel like part of the play. At least part of the decoration.

That's what they did at the Seattle dungeon I went to ages ago.

I don't know what kind of facilities they have on hand, but I would put manacles on the wall in a heartbeat. I'm kinda handy that way. *grin*

Anyway, just a thought. I hope you have a great time, pip.

-=Storm=-

I know what you're saying Nasty_Male.

I guess my reaction that I am interviewing stems from their approach to "getting in" to their club/group. I have not been uber impressed with how they ignore or give little support to new people. In general I think they're just cautious of what kind of people they associate with and the safety of the group. If I find a similar cold response in real life, then I will just chalk that up to meeting all kinds of new people and search under a different rock.

Trainmaster, I am naturally an observer until I have figured things out, which is contrary to what everyone tells me I should be. I ask questions and I connect much better one on one or with a group of 2 or 3. Issib is correct where some may act overly confident or out-going at the onset, but I am not really like that, rather, friendly, polite and courteous, a better listener than self promoting. Perhaps a bit off-putting when "interviewing", but I guess it is just me.

I'll keep ya up to speed on how it goes, after all, the SF village has helped me conquer many things. So, in advance, thanks!

I think you may be approaching this the wrong way. You shouldn't think of the interview as a chance to prove your worth but rather an opportunity to learn about this group and determine it's worthy of you.

Dearest Pip,
having been to several munches and play parties I understand your delema. There are three things to remember;
1) observation is vital to learning. watching and respecting the couples space as they work will go a long way in earning their respect as a serious participant later.
2) Most Dom's are focused on a session and asking questions can spoil the scene or mood. so wait till after it's over and they have had a chance to relax and recover.
3)There are no stupid questions, if you don't know ask. Most Doms are happy to enlighten you if they can.
I hope this helps you enjoy your gathering and have fun.

Issib1965 has it right.

Re your concern about "being worthy", if you're interested, you're worthy.

Putting on airs will get you nowhere, and I'd say the best timing for your situation may be 15 minutes to 1/2 your late, but not more than that.

Good luck Petunia.. Hope u get a piece of the acting.. Waiting to hear what happened..

My advice....be yourself. To many people try to start a relationship being something they are not (more or less assertive as an example) because they think someone else values that quality. The best, longest term relationships happen if we are just ourselves and our partner got to know us as that from first impression.

pip, you're a great person, as more than just this (not so?) humble Dom will attest to. Just be you and it will be great.