How I got here… Essential truths from the women...

In the previous writing I had mentioned how I had been taught by male teachers that had lived their lives with several wives and/or concubines. One interesting thing about this is BDSM as it is known today did not exist back then, in fact this was closer to a regular style of living that was acceptable within the culture

Because I was a young man, if not a child, I was given the advantage of wisdom and understanding passed on to me by the many women within these relationships. The interesting part is that all of these women were very happy and their lives where quite fulfilling in their own mind. This of course went against the western feminist lying, in fact, I actually found a polygamy positive article on the NOW web site. Unfortunately it didn’t last very long as it was male positive as well. Anyway, these women did not believe in the Western feminist attitudes that actually victimized women as much as having taken away the feminine nature of women. There was also a time in my life that I was bombarded with this rhetoric misinformation and I fell into believing their lies, I then had a very low self esteem, a low self image, and a lot of anger and hatred. The anger and hatred came later when I found out how much I had been betrayed by these women, it took several years to come to term with their masculine neutering ways using shame, guilt, and other manipulations to destroy the masculine nature.

I have always regretted this aspect in my early life having experienced strong feelings of manipulation and negative control of my very masculine nature. Indeed, in their attempts to control my self image and manipulate my behavior as a man, they created a person that felt betrayed to the greatest level… as a result, I went to the opposite extreme whereas I carried great hatred and anger for women. It was later at a time that I was self destructing that I had the opportunity to understudy a Lakota Sioux medicine man. That was when all the knowledge and teachings of my youth came together and I finally found balance within my life. No longer was I controlled by anger or social programming. But that is jumping ahead.

Although I do have my own spiritual outlook it does not include the dysfunctional mythological belief systems that consider themselves better than everybody else. Although I see far more than most people do and I understand a lot greater, I am not here to toot my horn or boost my ego as there is no need for that. I don’t walk on water, I put my pants on one leg at a time, and I make my own mistakes. I am happy as to who I am from within because I know myself and I take responsibility for myself and my actions (as well as those within my house). Although I do chose to be angry at times.

So what did these young women teach me? Although there was not any sexual contact we did have extensive sexual conversations that included the deed/act as well as the nature and feelings behind the feminine drive and sexual needs. Of course this is not to be a highly detailed accounting of everything that I learned, rather just to give a taste of the ideas and concepts. In the relationship development of having multiple women as servants, wives, slaves; it was a rightful for the plan to start out with one and then progressed to a second one after spending one or two years with the first. The reason for this is that the first one will ultimately know and understand the man/master much better; and in theory be the responsible controller of all those who follow. The reason and purpose of having a controller is to relieve the man from some of the mundane interactions that are less important in the structure and care of his house and home. Of course it is also the man who is responsible for the overall operation of the home and to maintain control and discipline within the house.

Women are very intelligent there is no question on that issue. They also see things differently (in an MRI study of emotion, it was proven that women experience emotion in different parts of the brain as men do. This means men and women experience emotion differently then each other.) The differences occur on many different levels whereas because the women think and operate on an emotional level, that includes 50% of their time dealing with hormonal imbalances that adversely effect their reasoning processes, they do not necessarily have the psychological and emotional makeup in order to deal with issues that require linier abstract thinking (for example Math, regression and fuzzy logic, multi-dimensional relational thinking (and yes I am aware of those few that are outside of the bell curve). I do realize that many people will disagree with this statement and if you cannot allow another person his own opinion that differs with yours…, then that is on you.

Of course when these women were instructing me, this is also when I first learned that women were naturally built to sustain higher levels of pain then men. Also that when experiencing pain massive amounts of endorphins are pumped into their system which creates a natural high for them as well (I assume that men have a similar experience although at a much lower level. Anybody who has any experience in BDSM today understands and knows this to be true. It was also explained to me how a properly trained man who has a balance between compassion and strictness, regardless of the culture or society is the true leader and the one who becomes a real master. So that has always been my goal in life.

Another vital bit of information that I was given or taught by these women is that all in all, a woman is predominantly a sexual being. Everything about her body and her mind is focused on sexuality and sex, even when she is not thinking about it. Her breasts were built and designed to provide milk to a child as well as pleasure to herself. Her clitoris is key for sexual pleasure and orgasm as well as her skin, G-Spot, the sensitivity of her anus, and so many more erogenous spots including her mind itself. If one studies metaphysics and alternate sciences, you will find that the greatest energy provided by the female body emanates from the Yoni. You will also find that a woman’s energy pattern changes throughout her life. For example the overall shape is spherical when she is young and as she ages, it changes during pregnancy and returns to spherical after. The next major change to her energy pattern is when she passes menopause. Another important part of a woman’s energy is that it merges with other women when women spend time together. It is unfortunate that culture and society creates the tension that often put women at each others throats including Daughter-Mothers. Again this is a totally different discussion in the many intricacies of male and female energies. This gets into a much more detailed discussion as to the proper use of this energy by the female collectors and the male controller which of course is part of my education on three different continents. Other aspects of having multiple women within a single house is the active control of the master over his house on the psychological and emotional level in order to maintain congruency as well as peace.

So basically what this is saying is that you can't be lazy, you have to be actively promoting your authority as the master of the house or as the owner of the slaves. This can happen on many different levels from the authority of your position to the daily interactions that occur non-sexually as well as sexually. It also occurs through the time of talk for discussion of their purpose and their reason for being within that house.

In today's “alternate lifestyle” so it is called, there are way too many people that are totally clueless who present themselves as intellects or knowledgeable people. More often than not you'll find these people on the forums giving out really stupid advice and equally stupid opinions because basically they're stupid. It is usually these very people that flames everybody else because of their own insecurity. Of course, this is not a politically correct way of saying it, but there are actually very few people who have any real clue within the United States. The vast majority of people in the US are nothing more than SWINGERS who like to have a little kink; MEN WHO HAVE CONTROL ISSUES AND USES THIS TO FIND SOME SEMBLANCE OF CONTROL IN THEIR LIVES, and a bunch women who want to have permission to be told to be sexual so they can fuck anything that moves without feeling guilt or shame for it. And you can take all of that and wrap it up in a bunch of dysfunction and neuroses based upon a culture that tells you that you can go kill somebody overseas at the age of 18; but anything to do with sex is off-limits. As a side note I find it very interesting that violence has always been far more acceptable in mainstream society (including religion) then healthy sexuality. Have you ever noticed how religion is always preaching about the sin of sex, porn, and so forth when it really doesn’t harm anybody? But you seldom hear anything about the violent shows, the violent games, and society violence in general that promotes and directly harms people every day. Makes you think that they are indeed a bit clueless. Did you know that statutory rape (that of consenting people) will get you a 300% greater prison term than negligent murder, second degree murder, and depending on the cases even first degree murder. Not to mention the sex offender (where nobody was harmed, mind you) also have to register for life when the murder walks unknown on the streets. Is that screwed up or what?

So let me see what else can I think of off the top of my head that I was taught by these women… Essentially that as the man of the “House” you are in charge and you have to take charge whether they like it or not, but it has to be done in a positive way (although this might be through hard technique such as the use of punishment, Logic, emotion or other forms of establishing your dominance). In general, they specified that women do not understand their own real needs because women are innately greedy and want and will take as much as they can possibly take regardless as to what it is. Now this is not necessarily a bad thing because it is part of the nesting need that women have… it just needs to be controlled. For women, it is easier to lie and to manipulate rather than to tell the truth… just because (it is believed that this stems from the run away society norms of the feminist culture that allows for excessive exaggeration and lying in order to get what they want), it is also considered that this is just how women are overall. Women do not believe in honor, integrity, self responsibility or anything like that for themselves yet they expect and demand that from others (again this is more of a cultural programming than innate behavior). Please remember, this is still just a generalization of what these women taught me (although most of this I have verified through psychological studies as well as experience). There are as many negative behavioral dysfunctions associated and programmed into men in the last 50 years as well, so they are not off the hook either.

It is because of these behavior and programming patterns in women that it is important for a man to have honor, integrity, responsibility and have the ability to say no as well as the insight to realize when he is being manipulated. Although being manipulated is sometimes acceptable especially when you are aware of it and you allowed too happen. Unfortunately, men are no longer being taught how to have honor and integrity. In order to be healthy and happy women need boundaries, and they need honest men with the inner strength to set those boundaries. Women will always test those boundaries to see how far they can push, and push, and push… they want to know not only if a man can stand his ground, but how he does it.

Innately and rightfully so, women expect those men in control of them not to lose their tempers but to take these actions in hand and basically shut them down. Women do need to be reminded of their position regularly through various means of authority and control. Women do not need, nor do they expect, nor do they ask to be excessively abused, screamed at by someone out of control themselves, nor do they desire to have somebody over them that is spineless, a drug addict, alcoholic, insecure, a personality based upon anger, fear of losing control or being over controlling. This is not in respect of women, in great admiration of the female species for all of their abilities and how they are. I do realize that this is a large discussion pro and con based upon today’s belief systems, culture, and so forth… we like to believe that we are more civilized today then in the past, but that is not particularly true… for example, America has more people in jail than any other country in the world… is that civilized? In fact, today, people don’t even realize that we are a Republican form of government and not a democratic form… most people have no clue and will think this refers to the political parties of the current corporate government.

That is all I will say on this subject for the moment.

Continued in part 3...