so Mr I will turn you into a prostitute (whose blog seems to have disappeared) got me thinking:
I was watching a documentary on hbo this weekend about the cannibal cop. for those that don't know he was a cop that would go on fetish websites and talk about cannibalizing women. well he wound up getting prosecuted for it. the doc is interesting not so much because of his specific story but because it brings up complicated issues of when does thought become action, when is a "crime" really committed, when does public safety out weigh personal rights, what is thought crime?
now we all "know" Mr I will turn you into a prostitute was probably just mid fantasy and decided to write a post just for the hell of it and because it got him off more and because maybe, just maybe, some woman would also be online and want to "play" that game and respond. They might exchange a couple of PMs and both of them get off and that's all that happens. But what if it evolved? the woman really decides to turn a trick. Mr I will turn you into a prostitute has no idea he still thinks it is all online fun...has he committed a crime by being a virtual pimp (pandering would be the crime I think)?
Now what about the more serious role plays? specifically r*p* role play. lets say a man and woman are online engaging in some r*p* role play fantasy talk, neither specifically say "this is just a fantasy". The guy buys some duct tape, cuffs etc but only to take a picture to send to the woman..just a visual aid for fun and to make it seem more real...according to this documentary by taking actions that indicate you will commit the crime you can be prosecuted.
the way I have written the scenes above gives the impression they are clearly fantasies of people but HOW DO WE KNOW?? what if the man in the r*p* scene has been inundated with writings (as you will find on larger sites like fetlife) that women really enjoy r*p*...what if he got to know enough about the woman to know where to find her and he was in fact going to use those implements to r*p* her for real? YOU CANT KNOW!!
I read some of the posts here and on fet and I can feel the hatred of the men writing them. Men who I would say are a danger to women...BUT THAT IS THIER ONLINE PERSONA...in real life they are a totally different person. Which personality is real? the internet and the ability to be someone totally different has made it so hard to know what is really real. Do these men really think of women this way? are they basement dwellers who haven't really interacted with women so all they know is a porn version of what a woman is so do think really ridiculous things like women WANT to be r*p*d?
this really isn't a blog about womens safety issues but these things are why I sometimes get skeeved out by "the lifestyle". I know most are like me-they have fantasies and may even act them out but understand that most of what we discuss is not real...I am not a worthless whore, I am actually a smart strong woman (stronger and smarter than many domly doms) but we have fun role playing...but what about the ones that don't know where the line is or that there even is a line? Really I just meant to open a discussion on the duality of our selves in this community and also the interesting question of when fantasy gets too close to reality-where is THAT line?
so this blog got a bit rambling and all over the place but that is how the trains of thought about these subjects go...you start on one topic and it ties to another and another until you cant really form a black and white opinion because it is all so complex and so intertwined with a persons rights and every ones differing opinion on where the danger lies. I would love to hear anyone elses thoughts on the topic of when does thought become crime and what part of a person is real-the online or the IRL.
(I highly recommend the aforementioned documentary on hbo.)