Eventually it was time to start the evening. We found a club with an early show of a band we both enjoy and took off. The club was our kind of place - home to a weekly fetish night as well as a dance club and concert place, it was dark and dingy and lots of corners. We found a good spot to see and where he could discretely touch or hurt me if he desired. The show was fun and built up the kind of energy we were looking to for the heart of our evening.