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Evidence of Personal Growth on SF

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Tue, 11/22/2011 - 16:45

smackdat

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Evidence of Personal Growth on SF

i have been around SF for a couple of years now, reading the forums and personal blogs, and yes, at times i check out the media section.

What i am observing and perceiving is the personal growth showing up in the blogs and forums of the submissives and slaves. There is a “sisterhood” within SF, unlike the catty competiveness women lower themselves outside of the BDSM community, to be the most perfect, the most beautiful and will stop short of nothing to attain that status.

It appears to me the submissives and slaves are in a process of looking at their lives: expressing how they are feeling; what is missing and what can be improved. They are actively working on improvement through shared knowledge on this site, educating themselves; increasing their awareness of the world of BDSM, and where they fit in. They are looking at their belief system and making changes in it. i love it!

They are speaking out and re-examining their identities to find the one that more closely aligns with their natural core self, who they really are, and what they really want in their life in the context of the relationship between them and their Dominant.

i applaud the Dominants on SF, you know who you are, who are confident in their role and willing to share your knowledge with us, for without it there would be no safe place to ask questions and seek advice.

respectfully,
smackdat

Mon, 11/28/2011 - 16:49

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smackdat

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Re: Evidence of Personal Growth on SF

Quote “[While dominants are generally thought of as the ones to motivate action, in this case it has been the submissives who really lead the charge.] “Quote

Thank You Sir Nasty for the segue ~ something to debate a “cause célèbre” within in the BDSM community. i love it!

Outside of a D/s relationship, society deems that "power flows from the top down." A couple of perfect examples our political system, corporations, etc.

However, power in a D/s relationship "flows from the bottom up" and this power assumes many levels. As the relationship of trust and communication develops, the submissive may allow more latitude and give consent to take greater challenges by giving over some or all of her control to her Dominant.

Running for the foxhole…

respectfully,
smackdat

Sun, 11/27/2011 - 22:09

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Re: Evidence of Personal Growth on SF

It seems the community on SF has really blossomed in the few months. It's wonderful how engaged people have become communicating their thoughts and feelings. I too have seen the evolution that some people have gone through and it's beautiful. The pictures and videos are great but they don't show people the whole picture. It's the blogs that help people see there's more to the lifestyle than just kink and fetish. Reading about peoples other hopes and fears as well as their triumphs and their failures, humanizes the community and enables people to identify with at least some aspects of it.

While dominants are generally thought of as the ones to motivate action, in this case it has been the submissives who really lead the charge. I really admire the courage of the subs who put themselves out there writing about their inner most thoughts and exposing themselves to potential derision or humiliation. Furthermore, I have to admire the rest of our little community for rarely, if ever, saying anything rude or hurtful. Comments are always supportive and encouraging. Kudos to everyone here.

Sun, 11/27/2011 - 19:57

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Re: Evidence of Personal Growth on SF

yes, the bar has most definitely been raised, and it's very much a relief. i must admit, my interest here on SF used to be quite morbid for the most part, but it has shifted ... that happened because i had faith that if i spoke more and from the heart, more from deeper mind than reactive one, that there would be interesting and worth while people to listen and interact with.
thank you all (you know who you are) for doing the same.

Sun, 11/27/2011 - 14:22

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Re: Evidence of Personal Growth on SF

sister pip,

Thank you for the commentary on the post. i venerate the edit feature on this site! Thanks Admin!

In a bit of a rush to get this post up as SSA and i were taking a few days of holiday. i am hopeful the clarification of my intent is apparent.

in appreciation,
smackdat

Thu, 11/24/2011 - 05:21

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Re: Evidence of Personal Growth on SF

smakdat,

Well, you didn't put "not paid for this endorsement" at the bottom of this so, as always, I'll assume that genuine loveliness that you always smartly exude is right on

Not sure what sparked your "sisterhood" comment, but I do agree. There has been little cattiness or "competition" lately. Absorption of experience and knowledge from others is only possible if you are willing to admit you can continue to grow in all aspects and that has been a welcome theme recently! Not total without your wise and very helpful.

Thanks for your comments!!!
-pip

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