Greetings..
I think we all are wise to the saying: Respect is earned. It is a word with a lot of meaning and merit and not intended to be handed out like candy.
I use to use the term respect to describe my deference to those that claim themselves as Free within this way of life but now have come to understand that it is just exactly that: Deference to the person claiming that status when I use honorifics. To gain the respect from me towards them in a genuine manner they would have to earn that, and that takes time, deeds amongst other things. That gaining of respect from me is only important to those that would wish it of me. To any other it is meaningless really.
What I do have respect for is this way of life, and that is due to the many who have come before me, and will come after me that stand against the odds of life to live as they choose. The one's that have sacrificed and will sacrifice by not taking the easy road and buckling to a society that just doesn't understand.
As a slave I have been shown through Master that I am not in position to determine who is or isn't what they proclaim themselves to be, and deference where it should be must be maintained reguardless of whether I feel a genuine personal respect towards that person or not. I am given a lot of latitude to .."gasp" yes speak my mind on any given subject matter that I have interest in as long as I maintain my place.
A Master/slave dynamic is as personal as it comes. There Are no rules or set in stone guidelines that fit all. There are a great many who are long term within this way of life to those just entering and learning about it as they discover themselves. There can be no such thing as "wannabe's or players", and to use these terms would seem to show ignorance of what this way of life was meant to be.
If a Master allows his sub or slave to do something..who am I to harp on that sub or slave about its behavior? To do so is indirectly dissing and self determing that the Master of that sub/slave is not a Master as they are proclaimed. This indirect passive/aggressive behavior proclaims the writer of such to be the very thing they are speaking against with use of words like "wannabe, player or fake" as I understand their use, especially from a sub or slaves mouth.
It is my place as a slave to learn from those slaves before me, and to teach those entering. It is Not my place to judge but to embrace them, and help them discover this wonderful way of life that calls to a great many of us.
Just thoughts of the day.............
Well Wishes
starshine
