If i were a domme and i wanted to dominate a man does that mean I will talk to him and tell him he is ugly and worthless or is it different. I am just wondering what they do because i like it when a man calls me names but i wouldnt want him to call me ugly or fat and stuff normal chick stuff but if we were role playing would i call him names like that or are there rules. Im just wondering

My answer would be, it would all depend on the contracutal agreements.  I am a strict adhearant to the SSC (Safe, Sane Consensual) principles.  If it is a soft limit, you bet I would push it.  If it were a hard limit, I would not.

No..it wasn't an answer it was what popped into my head when I see the topic of the thread which I just felt was sort of wierd given the makeup of the movie itself.

The only answer that I can give really is that there is no real answer nor exact way to do or apply beyond the scope of what the persons involved wish to have between them though it does seem from most males that post wanting domme's that they consider themselves to be worthless dogs or pigs and seek some pretty harsh treatments..more so than any females. Why they require such a desire for apparent ill treatment and degradation would have to be answered by them.

Perhaps it is that females in general feel more of a vulnerability to begin with..where as males require much more of a humbling to achieve that...just a guess though.

starshine

" If I were a Domme "

Dunno what it is but for some reason I have attatched the above to the tune of If I were a Rich Man from Fiddler on the Roof, and start humming it everytime I see this thread..lol.

starshine

the first thing is that whatever works for the people involved at that particular time, that is what should happen...there are no hard and fast rules, it all depends on what the guy or girl is willing to accept...if you discuss this ahead of time, then you can both agree on boundaries.

Of course, that is with subs, not slaves...with a slave dynamic, you can still set some boundaries, but once the relationship starts, you are stuck with what you agreed to, and Master/Mistress will push as hard as possible, but should not actually break any limits set. Some Master/slave dyanmics are set up with absolutely no limits, but you have to be able to completely trust your partner to do that.

Again, it all depends on what each person wants out of, and is willing to do in, the relationship in question. As long as you do not go past any limits agreed to, the are no real rules, anything goes.

Hope this helps, Youngsub20

it's different from person to person

some people are really sensitive about their  appearance, ect. some wish to have the sensitivities exploited, to have their self image destroyed, others like to have certain boundaries or wish to be dominated in other ways.

it all depends on what flogs your back 

As everyone has already said, it is about that person. If a person likes verbal abuse, then you verbally abuse them. If they don't, you don't. You have to be responsible to not hurt a person beyond what is acceptable to them. That's why I like safewords and pre-established boundaries. I'd hate to find out during play that I crossed a line I wasn't suppose to and now the submissive is crying uncontrollably and I can't make her stop. You gain nothing in that situation. It's about communication. Hell, some guys like being kicked in the crotch...I would recommend you trying to make all of them do it...