I suggest a booth at a restaurant, it gives you privacy but keeps plenty of people near by so she feels safe. I recommend doing coffee or a meal too, it seems silly but the opportunity to take a drink or a bite of something also means a chance to gather your thoughts and think clearly. Food also helps relax you both because it requires interaction with the attendant so neither of you starts too feel boxed in and helps put you on an even keel as far as comfort goes, its hard to stay nervous when your eating and its hard to relax when your even slightly hungry. I would also point out that coffee or food gives you an Ice breaker, you may have talked online a lot but you can still end up having trouble starting a conversation in person.

I would also recommend planning things out, make sure its an easy to find place and show up early, if it may get busy make reservations. The key is showing her your in control of things from the get go, if you have to suddenly change plans that will weaken your stance as being in control, the first five minutes of any meeting with someone sets the tone for the whole encounter. In short put at least as much time planning out the meeting as you do the fun stuff.

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Tell her `how´ to come to and to behave on the meeting. Wearing no underware, no bra, meeting on a very public place - like a library. There just ask, "job done?" Do some small talk, and just look and see. 

Sometimes is just the order "be shaved" something very special. Enyou just watching her behaviour beeing shaved or wearing no bra or no underware.

 

Talking about her emotions or her toughts being dressed You told her on a public - private space.

Well my now Master and I met for our very first face to face after several emails later when i was ready to me was at a starbucks. Just to talk that was all. W/we had a great time talked about everything. Then He walked me out to my car and that was it.

It was totally great felt really safe and comfortable. Just wanted to give you this from a slaves point of view.

Any public place where you both feel comfortable.  I have met slaves in Restaurants, at the mall and hotel lobbies. 

I think it's totally individual.  Talk to her and see if she has any anxiety, and if not, just pick the place you want to have her and I do mean have her, heh heh.

Hmm I met a submissive girl in a library  once.  It was nice and friendly.  I had one of those study rooms setup for us.  That way we could be alone and still in public. :)

I like libraries.  They are neutral ground.  People are less likely to make a scene there than most other places; and most of us are readers so we are comfortable there.  Also I've always found libraries to be very private as long as you don't plan on getting out of hand.

 

P.S.  I like to hunt in libraries.

 

A face to face meeting of any sort with someone you've met on the internet should always have a safecall in place. Whether you plan to play with this person or not. Just because *you* don't forsee any danger in just going to a restaurant doesn't mean they don't have it planned anyway.

I agree. For both people. Who knows what evil may be lurking around the corner?

A face to face meeting of any sort with someone you've met on the internet should always have a safecall in place. Whether you plan to play with this person or not. Just because *you* don't forsee any danger in just going to a restaurant doesn't mean they don't have it planned anyway.

melen`s rayne,

it a first meet, they nervous and ground breaking and nothing more than that.

safecall only comes in when the next step is taken, and yes i do use it, hell protects Master and me.

but on first meet like a place were we both don`t know and both feel un-easy, oh car parks and pubs or clubs are banned, if Master needs beer then wong Master.

No one ever mentions safecalls anymore...

A safecall is someone that each of you feel you can trust. You both would have one. The people (it's not necessary that it be two different people, but it usually makes more sense) would have pertinent information about you. What you look like, how old you are, what kind of car you drive, where you live, how to get in touch with you, etc. Your safecall would have all of her information and hers would have all of yours. And you would set up specific times during the meeting to call your safecall. If a call is missed (by more than a few minutes, obviously), the safecall would alert the police. 

Other than that, the first meeting should be a public place that you *both* feel comfortable in. This doesn't necessarily mean a place you both frequent. People often get caught up in making the other party feel safe and comfortable and forget about their own comfort. Dom/mes get scammed and/or harmed just as often as submissives/slaves do. You shouldn't set yourself up for that. 

no one can shout at you if the advice is good,

as for first meet keep it simple and the more people around the better, this is for you as well as the slave, set her afew simple tasks that as to be done before the meeting and she as to turn up with them done, this will just keep her mind working and stops her from thinking about the meeting as we all know thinking does not help.

good luck with your meeting Sir.

I would agree with Master D, although i would say, stay away from her comfort area...do not meetat the parents ect...chose a nice place that both of you can chat in, also keep an eye on the amount of booze taken...this can lead to her, or you blurting things out, or acting out of character and so spoil the whole thing.

I know I know, will shock people, but...

what is best for her ? If she feel comfortable, have her meet you at a resturant or deli, if she feels overwhelmed or too nervous, have her bring a close friend (if possible) OR you meet her at her home or near parents (again if possible).

This can be a very powerful meeting, so you want to becareful where you DO actually meet since usually the first thing you get is choked from the hug lol :) if you allow her to touch you.

This is still a negotiation period, a meeting doesn't need to be dramatic but it should be a place where both feel comfortable, at ease and can sit and talk without too many interruptions. (avoid the a-typical hotel room heh)

Master D