Age : 36

Gender : Man

Body type : Athletic

Weight (kg) : 200

Height (cm) : 5' 8"

Eye Color : Blue

Hair Color : Grey

Sexual orientation : Heterosexual

Actively Seeking :Submissive Women, Slave Women, Switch Women

Biography : I go by tpe4ever on yahoo messenger, and Charles in person. Celebrating diversity and celebrating kink I have been in the scene since the year 2000, and have been throwing whips off and on since I was ten years old. My first love is to be the one who is leading, and being a sadist is one of the many symptoms of that love. I helped to resurrect the Sitka, Alaska chapter of PFLAG, which is my hometown, and organize the first pride march ever seen there. I most strongly identify with gay M/s couples, as far as what I feel drawn to relationship dynamic wise. I admire the masculine energy, even though I am personally attracted to a feminine body. I have lead various things in cooperation with Edges and SmOdyssey such as a single tail whip workshop, Florentine play lab, a D/s discussion group, whip samplers, and who knows what's next? I want to learn from everyone, and for us to show each other our passion, pride, and enthusiastic accomplishments! The best way to capture how I feel is "I'm awesome, and so are you. Let's be awesome together!". Hey, play partner! I historically do more with impact play, metal restraints (rather than rope), and long term kinky relationships where I am the boss. I am expanding into new areas such as more casual play, and rope bondage. There is other stuff I can do and have done, but might not bring it up unless asked such as fire play, fisting, enemas, and who knows what else (I'd have to think about it). Think of me as being like a restaurant such as IHOP. They don't advertise their steaks, but they do have them on the menu. I like to get to know someone before I dive in and play. This means hanging out and relaxing for at least a half an hour with a new partner and getting to know each other's usual play style and history. Typically, once everything seems good we'll go and play in a simple, brief scene probably for 10 to 30 minutes. After that we go out to the social area and check in before having more before having a longer scene. I like aftercare, cuddling at minimum. I like getting to know the person, both inside and outside of the dungeon if that is possible. I'm poly friendly, so in many cases I'm also thinking in the back of my mind "Would she work?" but I also recognize that with some people play is just play. Hey, lover! Poly wise, I would ideally like to be the head of a poly household with 2 or perhaps 3 women who live with me, serving me. Easier said than done, right? I've done ageplay, and I've been in the daddy role before. I don't really consider it my strongest sense of identity, but those looking for a daddy often find comfort with me. I do take it seriously, whatever I set my mind to doing. I still have a subscription to Parenting magazine, for this very purpose. I've done hypnosis off and on for a number of years, and I have some recordings I've done in the past. I really do get a kick out of defining someone's views at a fundamental level, and being a moral compass for them. Perhaps that is part of what can make me so appealing as a daddy. Sexually, if we're minimizing risks I'm all for it once I feel at ease around the person. If I'm serious about someone, it would start with using barrier protection and if all goes well getting tested and setting boundaries later on. I don't favor using barrier protection during oral sex, but for any other kind of penetrative sex I do in the beginning. Most people find it difficult to give me head. What was the phrase? Penises are like fish: The little ones get thrown back, the medium ones get eaten, the big ones get mounted! I tend to find anal more enjoyable than vaginal sex, though a good pussy can be enjoyable too! My sex drive is voracious, so consider yourself warned. I really can be quite nasty, if you get that far with me. I like having my toes sucked on, telling someone to clean a dirty floor with their tongue, ass-to-mouth after cumming, pissing in someone's mouth with the expectation that they swallow. All that stuff gives me a woody! I am totally not squicked by just about anything. I'll lick eyeballs, yank out a tampon and fuck a pussy, you name it. Do: Tell me "I'll do whatever you want" if you want me to fall head over heels for you. Approach me, because I like being approached. Don't: Tell me "This is the one thing I won't do" because I will suddenly want you to do it, or at least be willing to, even if I had no prior interest in it before you said anything. There are a few kinky things I've done that I'm not fond of. Topping men has not worked for me unless it's just for a few minutes and without sexual expectations or suggestions. Bottoming hasn't worked so well for me either, although my nipples do seem to be masochistic for some reason. Hey, buddy! Buddy wise, here are some of the easy ways to wind up with company: I'm out of shape (by my standards), but at heart I'm an athlete. I'd go to a batting cage, or go practice whips in the park without hesitation. I'm a little bit of a gearhead, and like sports cars (bikes too, but I'm trying to stay alive). I do IT when I'm working, but I'm going after a degree right now online so my schedule is flexible. I grew up playing video games in the cold, barren north so I'm a gamer. I've got the modded xbox with 500 games on it, the modded Wii with 300 games on it, the arcade stick with a hacked wireless 360 controller inside, PC LAN gaming (don't want to swing epeen so I'll leave it at that), well you get the idea. Making friends here has been somewhat of a puzzle for me. Maybe in CA friendship is entirely different than it was in AK? I'm out to my friends and family as much as they are comfortable with. I do strongly differentiate between positive and negative attention, and I do not seek negative attention but I seek to be myself wherever and whenever I can be. My past serious (24/7, live together) relationships 2000 My age:25, Her age:18, Type:D/s I introduced a friend of my younger sister's that I had known for a long time to D/s while living in the tiny town of Sitka, Alaska. For two months we lived together exploring a Vanilla, romantic relationship. During a romantic evening, I expressed my interest in D/s and she admitted having had an interest in it for years. After a year of living together in this sort of relationship, I became interested in M/s. She said no to being a slave. 2001-2005 My age 26-30, Her age:20-26, Type:M/s-Daddy/girl I met someone online who I hit it off with very quickly. Five days later we moved in together in starting an M/s relationship. Her experience had been primarily the online dabbling, and the occasional kinky play but she put her heart into what we did. We did make it work extremely well for the first year, but family pressures of not living up to their expectations while she was living up to mine caused us duress. We did get married in 2002, but in retrospect we did that to appease her family and it never got better after that. The M/s that was so profound in 2001 fluctuated on and off until we finally split up in 2005. As time progressed, there were elements of Daddy/girl and ageplay among other things. Five years is hard to sum up in a paragraph. 2005-2006 My age:30-31, Her age:23-24, Type:Hard to define I met someone online who I connected with in a profound way. After spending as much as 15 hours a day visiting sometimes, she flew across the country to Alaska to meet me. We lived together for around 5 months, but complications arose and we wound up apart. M/s, daddy/girl, the labels didn't quite work here except to say she wanted to be anything I might possibly want, and to be as close to me as possible regardless of what that meant. 2007 My age:32, Her age:34, Type:D/s I met someone in California while traveling for the sake of education and training for IT. She was aware of me due to my activity on kinky forums, so after a week of dating we decided to move in together rather than my going back to Alaska. Because we had such good compatibility and I really wanted things to work, I took it slow. I wasn't that aggressive, and took it easy about how dominant I was with her. I watered my passion down some. Not that I wasn't passionate, let me tell you! We had a great time for about three months. What taking it slow showed me was that it just took longer to find out that we were incompatible. It also reminded me that D/s might as well be Vanilla for as well as it suits me. I thought that perhaps a really awesome D/s relationship would be ok because we connected so well on non-kink levels, but I was wrong. We are still good friends, and why wouldn't we be? We connect on non-kinky levels but that alone isn't enough. 2007 My age:32, Her age:26, Type:M/s I met someone who had a little bit more experience, and after dating for about a month we moved in together. I discovered that we had very different expectations in terms of what an M/s relationship might be like, and what we each sought. I learned that there is what I might call a "Kinder, gentler" form of M/s that does not suit my goals and desires for a relationship. Largely for this reason, we parted ways towards the end of the year. I now use the identifier "Total Power Exchange" (or TPE hence my nick on fetlife) in conjunction with M/s to help clarify the sort of relationship I prefer to have. 2008-2010 My age:33-34, Her ages:22-43, Type:Various I dated a total of six women over the course of six months until I met the woman I am currently with. From kinky Mormon girls to single moms and everywhere in-between it seems like I gave everyone a chance. I got to have some great vacations, see tractor pulls, rodeos, poi dancing, spelunking, and eat some great home cooking. Some of these women loved to be told what to do, but couldn't let the rest of their lives change. Some of them loved being smacked and marked and tied up however I liked it, and some of them only wanted it a certain way. Most talked about wanting one thing, but in reality wanted something quite different from what they said they wanted.

Prefs : Dominant