In real life most people on the web are either fakes, players or want-to-be's. I have been on the web for many years and find that around 90% are player. This site is about the only one to trust and even on here we get the fakes.

Si all I can say is keep trying your Master or Mistress will come to you in time.

For some of us we look till we find the wench of our dreams and then spend the rest of our days living 'happily ever after'.  The good ones do get taken early.  That being said, some of us basking in these joys sometimes offer to help guide and mentor those just beginning their exploration.

I toyed with starting a BDSM Bed and Breakfast, and have had many visit my Chateau over the years.  The seeking phase passed and now the 'maintaining the joy' phase is upon me. 

Our advice, is to know yourself, be persistent, and be prepared to explore with those who can guide you but are not the golden ring, just steps in your path to success.

demodraphics can be daunting.  the more complex an indvidual you are, the harder it is to find an exact fit.  it's simple math.  6 billion people; half are the wrong gender,.  then eliminate the ones that are the wrong age, sexual preference, marital status, geographical location, and other major disqualifiers.  work through politics, religion, hygiene, etc.  now they need to be kinky.  not just kinky, but kinky dom rather than kinky sub.  this is a needle-player in a haystack.  this is not to say that he doesn't exist, just that a lot of weeding out is necessary to get to him.  now, when there is the prospect of porno pics or free sex, there are those who will pretend to be him.  there are also those who sincerely think they are him or sincerely want to be him but cannot.  you need to develop a process whereby your intimacy progresses in stages so that he continually demonstrates his reality as you do yours.  trust your instincts.  pay attention to the things you observe.  i recommend getting involved in your local bdsm community.  this will enable you to meet people already participating in the lifestyle and to get some scouting reports on your prospects.  it's hard enough to find somene you want to have lunch with.  of course it's going to be hard to find somebody you want to whip you in front of his friends.  intelligence, determination, and luck is all you need.  

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Don't give up !!! i found my Master/now Husband online - with bondage.com-- took years - but i would go through it again -- all the tears , lonelyness- to find him.

He was worth all of that. i remeber saying the same things your saying --it will happen !!!

kyra xxoo

Thank you all for your kind words!!! These are things that i also have in my mind and with no doubt you have made me feel more optimistic about the future!!!

i hope someday i will find a Master to serve, to obey and to satisfy... 

Yes, that is true and i higly respect that! Some Masters likes males some other females... the problem is for humans (still) like me that cannot be considered males or females and are in need of modifications and i suspect additional and more challenging training...

As they say, everything is in our mind, but when it comes to a real settlement then a Master must have strong wish and desire to accept a person like this and modify it in a way he desires and the slave must be determined to give up everything and devote itself to him.

That is difficult to find especially when we have high standards and we expect too much. I do not think that is bad, but as a submissive i must not think too much, but to comply with what Masters and Mistresses think and believe