The best analogy that I can think of that comes the closest to this situation is not unlike me getting into the backseat of a car with a stranger as the driver.  The moment I get in the doors automatically lock, the seatbelt gets fastened and I am to fully trust and respect that the driver is, one, an excellent driver.  Two, that the driver is an experienced driver and very close to a pro as possible and three, that his qualifications meet and exceed and are visible through the twists and turns and roundabouts and rush hour traffic.

Now I have two choices.  One, not get into that car in the first place, which is the smartest and safest thing I could do but also with deprivation and I find that a very sad thought.  Or Two, listen to what the driver says and see what the driver does before I decide to get into the car.  I like the second option because I get to put into practice my philosophy of Eyes Wide Open. 

I'm not in this alone.  I do not base any lifetime decision on anything less than Eyes Wide Open at the initial stages and I cannot make someone have the same philosophy nor will I attempt to conjole someone into doing it.  The basics to begin are either there or it is not.